Harm and Victim
Half of moral confusion is calling things 'harm' that aren't, and overlooking harms that are. The dictionary's definitions of harm and victim draw a sharp line: harm is unwanted damage to an agent, their body, property, or freedom; a victim is the agent who suffered it without consent. Offense isn't harm. Self-inflicted consequences don't create a victim. But real crossed boundaries do. These scenarios sharpen the line.